It's the condescending , " I'm better than you " attitudes of black women and the constant financial and emotional demands. In relationships with non black women , the financial arrangement is 50/50 or whichever partner is more financially sound contributes the bulk. Black women ? It doesn't matter which partner is the more financially sound , she expects the black man to be the sole provider , even if she works , her check going to her needs and desires , and his check , after he pays all of the household expenses , his car note and hers , both car insurances , children expenses if there's any , and gives her pocket money over and above all of the bills and her own earnings. It just becomes too damn expensive to date someone who takes everything you have while giving you nothing physically and emotionally , and often intellectually. Having been in relationships with Black American women , black African women , Asian women and afro Caribbean women ( I tend to stay away from white women though I have dated them in the past ) it seems that the Black American women , followed by the African women were the most stressful , most adversarial , and least emotionally rewarding. It seems to be all about them in relationships , and more than any other women and I have dated women all over the world ( ex career military )they are always emotionally needy , controlling , condescending and combative , and self absorbed , and even when you have educational disparities with them ( black men aren't as uneducated as the myth seems to perpetuate ) they still act as if they are your superior in all aspects and refuse to accept a black mans knowledge or skills for anything but brining home a check. It's to the point where there's no rhyme or reason to even attempt to. Even the introduction is combative ( Nigga , I don't know you , or what can you do for me is the response 90% of the time ) and demands are made even before a foundation is established. I was personally one of three black males in my grad school class in a black university , a class of 35 black females , and the women were pushy , and woe was a brother who answered a question and made a black woman look as if she wasn't the most intelligent person in the class. ( nigga you think you know everything , don't you ? ).
The demanding nature , never satisfied controlling witch is the general consensus , and if black women want to be relevant to black men , accept them as equals , and stop acting as if you're better than them. Myself , I'll pass you by and be alone before I am condescended to or mistreated. Most black men I know wont even do that , they'll just move on to the white woman.
Black women seem to find excuses to condescend to black men , telling them they are all on drugs of felons ( the felon part , is partially true as black men have higher conviction rates than other , but it's mostly due to the justice system , and even if that is true , what's the problem ? people are allowed second chances , but it's a deal breaker if he has a 20 year old felony , while YOU have six children by six baby daddies ?).
There's going to have to be some change or the black women are going to find themselves alone. One thing , the race doesn't die if those black men choose white women , the one drop rule still means black offspring.