I am a 21 year old guera who is in love with a 35 year old Mexicano (born and raised in México). Most of the responses on this post have been extremely stereotypical and offensive, to both gueras y latinas. My man and myself are admittedly attracted to each other's "exotic" looks (canela para mi y vainilla para el), but to say that that is the only factor that contributes to our relationship (like a lot of you had made it seem) is completely false. I agree that for some people it is only about looks, and that Latino men sometimes return back to Latina women, and I think that is because they can RELATE to Latinas, con cultura, lengua, comida, religión, experiencias de vida. And all of that is understandable, because many gueras, especially from the U.S. have a profound lack of culture from their home countries, or don't even know where they come from.
But that is where the stereotyping comes in. Not all white women are bland, sin sabor; and some white women (including myself) have many, many things in common with their Latino (in my case Mexicano) hombres. I will start by saying this, in order for a guera to have a successful meaningful relationship with a Latino, they must be able to relate on values, costumbres, y las cosas mas importantes en la vida. I am 100% Italiana, and unlike many white women I have a STRONG influence de la cultura de mi tierra, I celebrate Italian holidays, cook la MEJOR comida, soy Católica, and I want to raise my children to be PROUD of their Italian and Mexican heritage and have a strong sense of their culture. Not to mention that I have Mediterranean features, a curvy body with thick hips y nalgotas grandes, piel oro, con pelo rubio y ojos azules. Not all white women look the same! We are not all pale and skinny! It depends on the region of Europe that we're from (another stereotype that drives me crazy), in the summer my legs and stomach get as dark as him. My man loves that I am so connected to my Italian roots, and he encourages me to embrace mi tierra even more.
I think that is one of the strong points that brings us together, we share values, we are both Catholic, we both enjoy the same activities, and Italian and Mexican cultures are similar in many ways. Here's debunking another stereotype, I can COOK! Not only la mejor comida Italiana, pero puedo cocinar Mexicana, Americana, Chinese, whatever you want! Baby I was born to cook. I can clean until something looks new again, and do it in heels with a smile. I am a strong woman who makes decisions, but I let my man be a man, I let him be dominant and take control, and he likes that. I speak Spanish, and of course he thinks my American accent is so cute. I can dance, salsa, cumbia, merengue, not to mention ballet and jazz (for over 10 years now). I can sing along with Ana Gabriel and Vicente Fernandez, y me gustan the different styles of traditional Mexican music, from Mariachi to Ranchera to Tejano y mas, and can name dozens of musicians in those categories. I have been immersed in cultura Mexicana from the time I was a child, with Mexican neighbors, friends, and extended family members, and have made a real effort to embrace la cultura de mi hombre.
I am not meaning to brag about myself, but I am just giving an idea of things about me that my man affiliates with, and those things are the defining factors that keep us together. It is so much more than skin deep, and the reason that we are so deep in love is because we can really relate to each other on so many different levels, and I think that is what makes it work, not just for a guera con un Latino but with any "interracial" relationship. There must be enough difference to keep things fresh and unique, but the important things like values must be the same. I am the first guera that my man has ever been with and at first he was worried about the culture barriers, but now we are totally comfortable with each other, and the longer we are together, the more we realize how alike we are. And honestly, he told me in the beginning that he was "sick of the same old s**t", that's how he put it. He had only been with Latinas until me but had told me that he had always fantasized about being con una guera, even back in México, and that being with me was his fantasy come to life. And he is mine! But seriously, I just wanted to address some of the stupid stereotypes on this posting because it made me very irritated and offended, both for myself and for the beautiful Latinas out there, different people like different things, and it is insulting to both my culture and your culture to assume that all people are a certain way. And one more thing, not all Latina women are jealous or spiteful of gueras. I have many close Latina friends and most of them don't give a s**t about it, so for the other gueras out there saying that, get a clue because most Latinas are just living their lives and not worrying about what YOUR a*s does! Thank you.
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