good for u i would of pulled hie shorts and pants down for all to see and spank him red raw
Yes and what he really needed was you to paddle hom on his bare behing when you got home until he started to cry hysterically and then you have him write an essay on why what he did was wrong and then apologize to all involved ASAP.
I would have taken him home ,taken off his pants and spanked his bare bottom over my knee untill he was a very sorry little boy!
No you shouldn't of! You should of pulled down his pants and given him a whole lot more swats! If that was my kid well lets just say I would be the top story on the news!
i feel that you should not have done this in front of everyone but should have talked to him when you got home & if you still felt it necesary you should have spanked him then
it is o.k cAUSE THEY HAVE TO BE EDUCATED
did you think that there may have been a possiblity that those vulgar activity of your son was not aimed at you, but another person who happened to be in the same direction. anyway kids from 10-18 do act like this behind their parents backs, i speak from experience. i am now 19 but i did somewhat of the same things. i did in fact hide things and did thing that i wasnt supposed to but when i got caught i nvr got a punishment like that. sorry to say but that punishment is a bit old school
good for you , you did the right thing & tell him if u want to embarras me ill do it right back !
A spanking should be carried out in private. It is humiliating enough, even if necessary than to have a crowd watching, esp strangers to your family. It would have been okay to let your son know what he was in for and if others heard, so much the better/
So we are clear on my reactions and understanding of the situation, it should be known that I am the proud mother of three loving and respectful kids ages 18-28, one daughter, two sons. By age 12 he shouldn't have even THOUGHT about acting like that! I could be wrong, but it sounds like you have been suffering these kinds of behaviors for a long time, and they probably didn't stop after the spanking. With that said, no, I don't think you were wrong to spank him. If it had been me, I would have gone out to the field, grabbed him by the collar and taken him to the coach to inform him that he would not be playing again that year. Then, after getting him home, he would have had a butt he couldn't sit down on for a few hours, a lecture on respect, and any video games and TV privilages would have been taken away for at least a week! He also would have been instructed to take that time off to write a VERY convincing letter of apology accompanied by a verbal one! All this followed by a warning of how much worse ting would be if I EVER saw that kind of disrespect again.
you did the right thing if i was his mum i woulf of took it one step further i would of took his shorts and pants down and see if he thought he was big and clever in front of eveyone
Yes it most definitely was! If I were in your shoes I would have done the same. He doesn't have a right to be flipping you off and doing vulgar things in public towards you. If he is embarrassing you, why not embarrass him? Maybe he will learn not to do those things in public. Nobody should try to pull the child abuse card towards that, it was just a simple smack on the a*s it's not like you were whipping him with knives! That would have been a different story.
GO YOU!!!! Times are not how they once were. I am only 25 but when we were little we got in trouble it got dealt with right then and right there! No questions asked! Not anymore!
GOOD for you! Give your self a pat on the back for RAISING A PRODUCTIVE MEMBER OF SOCIETY! WOOT WOOT
MIKE:
Maybe ... but it seems he has some REAL problems, and real problems with relationship to his father and other family members ... real problems that will not be solved with a public spanking.
Seems he was wanting to "put on a show" and you just provided another opportunity for him to be in the "show".
HOWEVER, if they saw all the things he did, then maybe they should have seen him get at least a dozen "good smacks"; likely they hardly noticed what was happening TO him before it was all over!!
OF COURSE, maybe he is just "acting out" because of your new girlfriend!!!
yeah and no need to fell embareassed hes not 6
spanking on the butt is not so bad. you sometimes need to show kids how to behave. just don't make a habit of it, and do not hit him anyplace else. however, while it was justified, it might of been better to cool off and talked to him at home. he is going to be angrier because you embarassed him in front of people. just take a little time to think next time. but, you can't take it back, so you have to let it go, or it will eat at you.
Yes I think that you did the right thing. He needs to know that what he did was very wrong.
no that sounds very sexual
Yes that was very right!! You need to punish him very good. Your son has a serious problem and he isn't respecting you. No kid should be doing that.
I would have done the same thing hahaha.
Its debatable but If i were you i wouldn't be embarrassed he was a little jerk. He should be embarrassed
Not only that, but take him off the soccer team and ground his butt for a good long time.
Where is Doctor Phil when you need him?? I'm totally horrified that a 12 year old would display such utter disrespect towards a parent. As for spanking i don't think that solves anything. I would of taken him home and had a long talking to him about why he was so rude and disrespectful. I then would of taken away some of his privileges. Find out what your child's currency is...whether it's a playstation game to a soft toy. Take their most treasured items away. This will hurt more than any spanking! Sometimes it's hard being a parent.
legally you can smack your kid twice on the butt. But it sounds like he deserved five. He either needs more positive attention or needs some kind of counseling. I would consult a child behaviorist.
what you did was not THAT bad but I think it would have been better to just yell at him for a while and ground him, and violence wasnt necessary. just do what you need to do to let him know that was wrong but dont use violence
Dang, what's wrong with your kid? I would've done that. Also, you should really try and figure out why he did that, and if was just for the hell of it, then he should be grounded for a long time. No 12 year old should be allowed to flip off their parent, and being extremely vulgar in public.
whoah...........
you did what i would have done
Yes it was right. I would have did the same thing if my kid was doing that, especially being 12 after that i would have went home and spanked him again. 12 year olds should know better
no that was wrong .. you should have taken the boy home right away and gave him a spanking that he would not soon forget ...
I dont think your actions were appropriate. I can understand your anger, as i was a horrible little girl and was spanked until I was 17. It does more humiliation and damage mentally than physically in my opinion. And you took him in front of all his peers and thier parents and humiliated him. Of course his actions werent appropriate either, but if he is on the field... Let him be. If he wants to get in trouble with the coach, let him be punished by him first. Then later on I would talk to him one on one about why he acted the way he did. And as a result of his actions ban him from the next game. If he cant behave appropriately on the field he shouldnt be there at all. There is obviously a reason he is trying to get you irked, because I did it all the time when I was in middle school for attention. I was in alot of mental anguish, being bulleyed and stuff my parents didnt realize. Them hitting me didnt make situations any better. You want your son to be able to talk to you. Find out whats really upsetting him due to the crotch grabbing and flicking you off. He is obviously wanting your attention for some reason...PS he picks up on your actions, so watch what you do at home....
Well that was not appropriate of your son to do.
My kids are almost 2 and almost 5 my 5 year old son gets five a day usually and that is on a good day boys need to be punished a little more than girls haha but idk i think you did the right thing.'
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yes i think it fit the crime... shoula also punished him at home.. or take him offa the soccer team
The punishment does fit the crime. I would also add removing him from the soccer team and requiring a public appology to everyone that was there.
Heck yea! I have a 6 yr old who hangs out with older boys and started acting vulgar and I did the same thing to him and you know what? It STOPPED! his friends don't even do it around him anymore because I guess there scared Ill spank them too...lol(I would never spank someone else's kid, but who says I need to tell them that right?) Bottom line-Don't feel bad....I bet it won't happen again.
I think you both need family therapy...and QUICK!
YES !! Do it agen ur kids a * !!
to me yo did the right thing you have to be hard on kids these days if he does this alloty create a little discipline plan where he can go if he does bad things or take away all his items like a game system or something they use more than anything else.