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How do i tell my parents i want a sex change?

hi i am a 14 year old boy and want to tell my parents i want a sex change. How do i tell them? I have to tell them i cant take it much longer
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Guest12967516
Guest12967516
1 week, 2 day(s) ago

I have the same problem, but vis versa, I'm a girl who knows I'm a boy inside...but I have NO IDEA how to tell the 'rents!


Guest12228725
Guest12228725
3 weeks, 5 day(s) ago

don't you need female horomones befor puberty to prevent facial hair and a deep voice.


Guest12070343
Guest12070343
1 month, 2 day(s) ago

Thanks For The Feedback I Really Appreciate It And I Feel More Like A Girl I Don't Just Want To Be One.And I Know Its A Big Decision And Ive Done A Lot Of Research On It. Ive Been Feeling Like This Since I Was 4 And It Has Stuck With Me. Thanks For Not Being Mean, It Is Very Easy For It To Turn Bad In Discussions Like This.



Thanks Again!


Guest12020270
Guest12020270
1 month, 3 day(s) ago

JUST TELL THEM THAY WILL RESPECT THE TRUTH


Guest11877909
Guest11877909
1 month, 7 day(s) ago

Start by telling your mom the after dinner you and your mom tell your dad but be warned it may be ugly but in time he will understand.


goldendays
1 month, 27 day(s) ago

tell me your parent e mail ,i will help u.


Guest11098455
Guest11098455
2 months, 22 day(s) ago

hey dude im was the same situation as you until one day i snapped it just kinda poured out of me i have to warn you your friends and family will be shocked

hope that helped =]


Guest10950857
Guest10950857
3 months, 1 day(s) ago

i want a sex change but want to have kids one day but i would love to have boobs and a vagina but dont know how to tell parents i cant really help you though


Guest10785503
Guest10785503
3 months, 9 day(s) ago

im a 13 year old boy and I am in pretty much the same situation, so I cant help you at all unless I actually do tell my parents then i could give you some advice


Guest10628739
Guest10628739
3 months, 15 day(s) ago

Hey,
I get where you're coming from but you should look into it more before telling them.
Just to like get a better idea of trans-sexuality and all that jazz.



And another thing, just saying, do you feel as if you were supposed to be female or just that you (as you said) would prefer to be female?



Good luck :D


Guest10460850
Guest10460850
3 months, 25 day(s) ago

i feel like a girl and have done for a long time. im not unhappy as a boy but think i would prefer to be a girl.



i am 15. i want children though, and am attracted to both sexes.



i really want boobs and a vagina and would love to have sex like that. am scared of how my parents will react.



i am jealous of many girls. i play lots of sports to fit the male society.



i wear my mums makeup and clothes and her high heels i love.



i am not gay and took a transexual quiz and am likely to become a girl.


Guest10458030
Guest10458030
3 months, 25 day(s) ago

i want 1 2. it looks cool. i want boobs and a vagina and i couldnt have kids. i have crossed dressed many times + it feels so good.


Guest10451856
Guest10451856
3 months, 26 day(s) ago

do itttt


Guest10428780
Guest10428780
3 months, 28 day(s) ago

I'm 14 to and I would like have one too more then any thing in the world but I am going to tell my parents so I have to suck up my courage to tell my loveing parents that it is the only thing in life that would truely make me happy. Then I can live my life not as girl but as a guy, Iv hated being called a girl ever sence I was little and teased by people just asking you why.
But you know some times it's better to just write down you feelings


Guest10178326
Guest10178326
4 months, 9 day(s) ago

I want to be a girl too, i just don't know how to tell my parents. It looks cool, with boobs and a vagina. If i get the surgery, i couldn't have kids, and i dont want any. so its a win-win situation. And i would love to have sex with someone


Guest9969954
Guest9969954
4 months, 20 day(s) ago

hi i know how you feel i want a gender change allot as well my parents are great but i think i just cant bring it up. i know this is low but can someone tell me what to say and help me? my email is braedos@hotmail.com


Guest5456676
Guest5456676
5 months, 24 day(s) ago

hi, im 14 aswell and want a sexchange more than anything! dont tell them now! wait till your 16, thats wat im doing, im desperate to tell them but its to early, to take my mind off it i earn money for my sex change. so far ive earned 6,000 for it.im hoping to earn 16,000 and so need another 10,000 by my 2Oth although im getting the change by my 19th. 14,000 for the sex change and the other 2,000 for before and after hormone theropy and drug subscriptions! email me at siggythejordan@gmail.com for more info


Guest3812524
Guest3812524
6 months, 8 day(s) ago

hi. i no how you feel. i want a sex change a well but i don't no how to tell them. i have brothers as well so my situation probs a bit worse for me. just do what you feel is necessary follow your instincts.


Guest6510
Guest6510
earlier

Hey I agree with Emily C, you should just sit them down and tell them your thoughts and feelings. If you know they will be understanding then just take a deep breath and do it. Go seek the counseling so you know what steps you would have to take. If you can why not when your home start dressing more like a girl than a boy. You are going to have a rough time with people accepting you because you have all the bible thumpers and those who just dont understand that you were born in a boys body but mentally you are female. Stay strong and if this is what you want then do all the research and make sure your parents are with you because this is something they also have to go through. I really hope everything goes well for you and please keep us updated ok. Take care.


Guest961
Guest961
earlier

There is no good way to do it. Some write a letter, some push boundaries of dress and some just blurt it out. How about a video?



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w2EV3w2Qx...



You are right about getting into therapy. However, transition takes years and doesn't happen overnight.



Join an on-line support group for younger transitioners like this one:



http://www.TrueSelves.com



A couple more useful sites:



http://www.LynnConway.com



http://www.TSRoadmap.com



Good Luck!


Guest4807
Guest4807
earlier

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http://www.lauras-playground.com/forums/...


Guest1920
Guest1920
earlier

You don't, God made you the way He wanted you!!!


Guest3374
Guest3374
earlier

Umm; this is NONE of my business, but why?


Guest8353
Guest8353
earlier

oh my god, not often you get a question like this....



your just gna have to be straight with them, tell them seperately and i suggest telling the family member your closest to first. you are who you are they must accept it.


Guest8222
Guest8222
earlier

Go hunting with your dad and wait till your in the middle of the woods where no one can hear anything and tell him BANG BANG


Guest5301
Guest5301
earlier

You could just tell your parents you'd like to see a therapist about it - it's pretty much a requirement to get prescribed hormones anyways, so it's not like it's a step back. Transitioning is a pretty long process any which way you do it.


Guest9200
Guest9200
earlier

Oh..Wait atleast alittle till your 16, and i would tell my mom first and r both your parents understanding people?


Guest9414
Guest9414
earlier

id tell them from a safe distance. thats how id do it.


Guest2971
Guest2971
earlier

14 is to early for a sex change. any doctor would tell you that you should wait until you are an adult.



but in the mean time try dressing in women's clothing and taking female hormones. this will help you feel more like a woman


Guest4027
Guest4027
earlier

Well I don't think you can legals get one until you are 18 anyway so ther is no rush. Next is, your pic is of a girl and if you want one strongly and you feel that you are a women in a mans body.. they pry can already tell you feel akward in your own skin. Just buy a book about it or research "in the wrong body" online and eventually they will notice more and more and when you are 18 and or can afford it (they are very expensive and I don't think any insurance company cover's elective surgeries such as this one) they will know you want it anyway and be behind you or disown you. It's their choice.


Guest5454
Guest5454
earlier

Why don't you wait until you're an adult to make such a drastic decision you may regret later..


Guest2540
Guest2540
earlier

Just start a conversation then out of the blue say i was thinking about a sex change. I do it all the time... works for me =D.



Good Luck


Guest1387
Guest1387
earlier

y the hell do u want a sex change...gross


Guest6023
Guest6023
earlier

why do you want to become a girl? I mean that kind weird like why wonld you do that? i mean you should be happy of what you are! then your friends would like thats crazy!! and people might dis coud you at school.and the girl most likely not hang out with you? i would think about it and think about the pros and the con about it i'm sure your mom would under stand but still think about once you do the sex chage you cant go back


Guest9370
Guest9370
earlier

You are 14 and not 100% yourself yet I would wait until you are over 25 before making such a drastic change and after you seek psychiatriac care.


Guest1192
Guest1192
earlier

Im not against it or for it,but if yo want parents to know about it start dressing as a girl and then it will come naturaly to them and they wont be too much against it.



I would advise you to get sex change when your 18 tho because you just starting to live life as a teenager and you have to get a little bit mature and if its still your dream when your 18 then why not


Guest5131
Guest5131
earlier

No offense but god wanted you to be a boy, that's what you should stay.


Guest8155
Guest8155
earlier

Hi -



I'm not sure there's a good reason to tell them yet. You have to pass several psychiatric tests and I know of no organization who would pass you at 14. You are just too young. This is life. You have a whole life ahead of you. Perhaps you should consider understanding and accepting the person you are today, then consider the change when you come of age.



In the mean time - perhaps you should ask for therapy. I'm not saying that you are crazy or wrong, but it's a lot to deal with, and it would be good for you to have a safe, trained professional to talk to.



Best of luck to you.


Guest4002
Guest4002
earlier

just be honest with them but they will tell you this you are to young at the moment but think things over and be reasonable with them and keep cool and don't go in a strop they will respect your opinion more when you be mature about ie



take care and good luck


Guest6868
Guest6868
earlier

Wait until your 18.



That way they don't try telling you, "It's just a phase"


Guest9378
Guest9378
earlier

if they love you they'll try to understand. think it a few times over what do you want to say to them and then speak to both of them by a nice cup of tea. but LET THEM TIME. they'll need time to think about it and to understand everything.



if you are way too scared to tell them directly looking in their eyes. you can write them a long letter in which you tell them about your feelings.



wish you look



hugs from germany


Guest1247
Guest1247
earlier

no dont! just be urself. AND DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH BOYS that is not a good idea.


Guest6544
Guest6544
earlier

Not really sure but I don't think you can get a sex change at 14 you have plenty of time until you can just wait for the best moment and tell them, there will never be a perfect moment


Guest8634
Guest8634
earlier

If you really want a sex change you should probally wait... but if your telling them you probally need to just come out and say it....


Guest7651
Guest7651
earlier

Honey, you're too young to make that sort of permanent decision. You need to get to know yourself better and remember that what you think as a 14 year old is not the same as what you think as a 30 year old. Maybe you will have similar feelings later, but only time will tell. The age you are right now is a very difficult transitional age. It can be painful to let go of your childhood and to try to find who you are as an adult. That is true for all of us, not just those with gender identity issues.



High school is not real life. You simply cannot make a decision for your life based on how you are feeling in high school.


Guest9985
Guest9985
earlier

very carefully


Guest1083
Guest1083
earlier

you cut your dick off, then go to your parents say it was an accident and then say hmm maybe a girl wouldnt be that bad 2 be and then tell them =D


Guest2058
Guest2058
earlier

What are your parents like? If they're understanding and loving it should be no problem.



If not just wait until you're old enough to move out and start a new life-doing whatever makes you happy.



In these sort of situations its better to tell your mother. Or whoever your closest too, but one my friends was in the same situation and when he told his parents his father wasn't too pleased. Don't expect them to be a bundle of joy about it. Its something they'll probably have to get used too. And maybe they wont agree with it at first but if they'll good enough parents and see how much you want it. Then they may come around.



Good Luck with whatever you do.


Guest5500
Guest5500
earlier

Hmmmmm, and what's your plan for convincing them who's to pay for the conversion operation - the insurance company? lol.


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