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Bipolar Disorder/Oppositional Defiant Disorder and residential placement

Mon, 09 Jun 2008 00:00:00 GMT

My 11 year old son has been diagnosed with ADHD, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Impulse Control Disorder and being Bipolar. His instances are very extreme- currently he is in a detention center resulting from a rash of incidences- first shoplifting (which resulted in probation) to assault on a teacher, destruction of public property (for his destruction of the courtroom during a hearing) . . . and I could go on. His instances of anger and defiance are so extreme, that it is resulting in his increased criminal behaviors. I feel that based on his mental health/behavioral issues, he would benefit from intensive inpatient placement following his incarceration. His behavior has caused him to miss so much school through suspensions and detentions, he is currently in 5th grade working at a 2nd grade level. He has been tested for learning disabilities and does not seem to display any. He is currently in a special education school that has measures for his behavioral issues- but even that staff has been tested to their limits by son. In researching his problems, I realized that earlier behaviors were indicators- but I didn't realize them. My son had the most horrendous temper tantrums- even as an infant where he would throw himself to the floor, flailing and rubbing his feet together so forcefully that they would bleed which would suggest intermittent explosive disorder.One of the sites I was researching When he was five, he set our house on fire. Probation was attempting to find a program for my son, but we are running into roadblocks because of his age. Most of the programs that probation offers are for 12 years or older- which he will not be for 6 months. Do you know any residential programs or therapies that may be available for my son?

schizophrenia treatment

Tue, 24 Feb 2009 04:44:00 GMT

Dear friends, Can anybody tell me that he saw a patient who recovered from schizofernia? because i heared schizofenic patient can not get rid of medicine till his death. He takes the medicine through out his all life.

Am i crazy?

Wed, 15 Jul 2009 13:55:00 GMT

Since last night, And I don't know what triggered it, but I have been seeing a person, someone that no-one else can see. And The even worse bit was, it told me to open a shaver, and I did it, I took out the blades. But Then it told me to cut myself and my dad came in, am I crazy? I don't know who to go to, I told my best friend and family, they all think im nuts or having a bad day. Is that the case. Also, I have been depressed a lot, can hardly sleep and hyperventilate when im scared/angry. Any advice?

the girl i am seeing was raped and i need to know how to help

Tue, 05 Jan 2010 00:58:00 GMT

ok well my names adam i am 18 her name is carmel also 18 we met at work whilst she was in an abusive relation ship it was so bad she had to run away to get away from him
a few months ago she came back and i told her how i felt about her and to my suprise she said she felt the same
ok so that how we started well when she was 16 in november she was rapped by a girl and a man that she knew very well she went to the police but the case was dissmissed because she wasnt fit to stand up in court
now 2 years on every november and part way into december (she tells me) she "copes" bye drinking nearly every night to "shut it all out". Now i understand people have their own ways of coping with things but i just wish i could help and stop the drinking i mean yeah 5 times a week is nothing new to most 18 year olds buti just cant stand to see her hurting this bad
i expect your thinking i should tell her how i feel about the drinking but i can just see that coming out wrong and she would push me away (its taken a while for her to open up this much)
basically i need to know how i can help when ever i say how can i help she says u cant she doesnt ask for space or anything but i know there has to be somthing i can do even if its just t oget her to think of somthing else with out having to get drunk

i need some guidence

Thu, 24 Jul 2008 00:00:00 GMT

QUESTION: Hi Kim. My name is mari. When I was 14, I was raped by an 18 year old friend that I knew and
trusted. I went over to his house to watch some movies. Being alone with him
didn"t make me so nervous because he lived with his parents and I was under the
impression that they would be around. We laid on his bed because his TV was in
his room. Now when I say "lay on the bed," it sounds sketchy, but it wasn"t at
all. I felt like I was laying next to my brother. But I guess he didn"t feel the
same way. He casually started to get closer and almost like got on top of me. I
laughed and pushed him back thinking he was just being silly, but he wasn"t.
Considering that I was 5"4" and 115 lbs, and he was 6"1" and I"m guessing
somewhere near 200 lbs, it wasn"t a fair fight. He was very vicious and
aggressive. I cant remember a time where I was more frightened. But now its 2
years later and I have a great boyfriend. I have been with him for a year. He
has told me that he is no rush to have sex, but hes ready when I am. I told my
boyfriend about my experience before and he was very understanding. I want to
have sex with my boyfriend a lot because I love and trust him, but I seem to be
having some problems. All that we"ve done is kiss and cuddle because the second
he starts to move his hands below my waist I always jump back and get super
tense without meaning to. He tells me that everything is okay and reassures me
that hes not going to hurt me, but I just get so nervous. Inside I know that he
would never do anything to hurt me, but when were together I get these terrible
flashbacks to that horrid night 2 years ago. I think this is partially because I
haven"t grown much in size and my boyfriend is over 6" tall and very strong,
reminding me of the guy who raped me. I know that he has the power to overtake
me, but I know he wont. But I cant help but thinking he will. Does that make any
sense? When were messing around he sometimes like playfully gets on top of me
and holds me down on the bed while being completely non-threatening. But instead
of seeing a loving boyfriend wanting to make me happy, all I see is that night. I am
sorry i wrote such a long story, but I have no idea what to do. I don"t want to
go to counseling, to be honest, you and my boyfriend are the only people I"ve
told. I just want to know how I can get past this and why I cant just relax and
have a good time with the one I love. If you could please respond sooner rather
than later, I"d really appreciate it. I just can"t take this fear inside of me
anymore. Thank you.

ANSWER: Mari,

I am sorry I wasnÂ’t able to write sooner.

I will do my best to help you, but I fear that this can not work without some deep counseling. Rape is very serious and itÂ’s not just something you talk about and itÂ’s goes away, and the healing and recovery can take years and years and lots of learning and relearning.

It sounds like you are having body memories, flashbacks, anxiety and panic problems, also there are some triggers here your boyfriend is about the same size.
You can have a normal sexual life. But I am guessing that when this happened to you, you were a virgin and therefore you didnÂ’t know what a positive and loving sexual experience is therefore you have no way of knowing whatÂ’s normal. This is why I am strongly encouraging therapy. A therapist can help you not only work through and understand what happened, and what is likely still going to happen as you work through all this pain. But it will also help you understand your body so that you can have and form healthy and safe relationships.
Many times victims of rape will be become sexually active after a rape and they have sex, but they depersonalize or dissociate because emotionally they simply can not get past their abuse and trauma. They go out of their body and never have fulfilling sexual lives. With therapy they are able to work through the trauma and abuse so that they can stay present.
I know you said that you are not ready, and they you rather not talk to anyone. But, I fear what will happen if you donÂ’t.

I wish you all the best,
Kim

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QUESTION: I see where you"re coming from, but is there a way of going to counseling without my parents knowing? If my mom finds out, she will never let me out of the house again. She will think it"s my fault and I will end up getting in huge amounts of trouble. And even worse, she"ll tell my dad. And my dad is one of those people that tells everybody personal things no matter how much I tell him to stop. So I guess what I"m wondering is if there is like a way I can get some help anonymously?