My husband and I have been married for almost 3 years and have been together for 13 years. 6 months ago I found out that he had been having a emotional affair with my cousin who is 8 years younger than we are. We are both in our early 30s. I had suspected something was going on for well over a year. My cousin and he would text each other a lot and go out to lunch while I was at work (he works nights) Occasionally I would be invited. I on several occasions let him know that I was not comfortable with how often they texted and hung out. To me it felt like she was taking my place while I was at work. He always told me I had nothing to worry about he loved me. However he still texted and hung out with her with the same frequency and I still continued to feel hurt and confused. It felt like he was disinterested in our life together.... When I joked with him that he prefered her to me he would get upset and defensive. It also appeared that he was deleating some of the texts he made and recieved from her. One night after he had a few drinks and went to sleep I looked at his phone at he had texted to her "I want to f**k your brains out!!!" She had responded "Not beating around the bush anymore are we?" I woke him up and confronted him. He was remorseful and cried a little. He agreed never to speak with or see her again. He said they had never actually had s*x. My problem is I still don't know if I believe him. I still hurt so much!!!! Whenever he seems a little distant I instantly feel like he may be in touch with her again, though his phone records show no contact. When I feel like this i try to talk to him about the incident but he gets really quiet or acts like I didn't ask him a question. Sometimes he says he is sorry. I don't know what to do or think. Did they have s*x is he lying about that? Is he still seeing talking to her? Why does he shut me out when I need to talk about the incident?
Tags: cheating, emotional