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13 year old pregnant

Just recently my 13yr old came and told me she was pregnant.Her boyfriend goes to our church,me and my husband thought we had raised her better than this,but we were wrong.She's about 3 weeks pregnant from what her Dr. has told us the guy who got my daughter pregnant is 17 and they've been going out since she was 11 from what they tell me.Me and my husband won't file charges against hm because me and his mother grew up together and that could wreck a relationship.

The young man says he will do anything to help and that he would never leave her I'm not to sure about tha,but I trust him because his mother wouldn't let him leave my daughter.

I believe that these two "Children" had sex a night when me and my husband were out at a dinner for his bosses job,and we trsted her with her grandma but we were wrong.Turns out her grandma never made it out here,and my daughter allowedher boyfriend to come over and thats how it happend.

My question is,am I a good parent for letting her keep this baby her father believes I am but I'm not quite sure with this situation.My daughter has always had a thing to where she thought she wasn't like everyone else,because I am of the Hispanic race,and here father is of the African-American race.She felt the need that she had to do this to fit in and kids these days need to learn that sex is not a way to fit in.

I've talked to her over and over again and I guess it just went in one ear and out of the other.Her friend had a baby last year she should've learned and now I feel a if I'm the bad guy.
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Guest12798858
1 week, 5 day(s) ago

You are not a bad parent at all! My daughter was 11 when she had her baby with a 13 year old boy! She kept the baby as well! My huspand was so angry at her. But after we got through the 7 months she was okay. It was mostly hard when the baby was coming, when she told us, and when she told her friends. But you are a very good parent! Don't you worry!


Guest12635175
Guest12635175
2 weeks, 2 day(s) ago

i am also 13 and pregnant i am 32 weeks and although having sex was a mistake, i will love this baby. this is a good experience for your daughter. it will each her responsibility. her and i are alike in a rare way..... our boyfriends love us and arent going to leave us. good luck :)


ASKANDREWNOW
2 weeks, 2 day(s) ago

It is not the best thing in life to have a child at the age of 13. However it is best to have life. The child will be loved, unique, and get to experience something great that only few get to. like you and I I it will have the chance to live. It will have a name and a virtue. Being upset and worrying will not help. It will bring negativity into your life and negativity will only produce more negative. I wish you the best in life.



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Guest12559515
Guest12559515
2 weeks, 3 day(s) ago

im 13 i fink it is really gross that a 13 year old is pregnant i would not fink twise about haveing sex at my age and if i did i would of used a comdom at least you are a good paerent.x


Guest11686784
Guest11686784
1 month, 17 day(s) ago

From the daughters perspective:
I am 17, and I was pregnant at the age of 14. My father and mother told me I was NOT allowed to keep the baby, so we had to put it up for adoption. I really wish I could see her face again, but my parents won't tell me where she is. The father was also 14, nice guy, good looking. I still do not talk to my parents, and I moved with my godmother after the adoption. I hope you are moved by my story and I hope it helps your situation. But let her know that it was wrong, just tell her you forgive her. Take her to church frequently and keep God in her life. When I look back, I wish I had him in mine. Let her know god forgives her and you do to. Not keeping the baby did nothing for me. You have to learn from your mistakes, so if she keeps it, she has mass responsibility! Thanks so much and I hope your daughter can help other moms and teens to learn from her mistake! God bless and good luck


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Guest11686784
1 month, 17 day(s) ago

From the daughters perspective:
I am 17, and I was pregnant at the age of 14. My father and mother told me I was NOT allowed to keep the baby, so we had to put it up for adoption. I really wish I could see her face again, but my parents won't tell me where she is. The father was also 14, nice guy, good looking. I still do not talk to my parents, and I moved with my godmother after the adoption. I hope you are moved by my story and I hope it helps your situation. But let her know that it was wrong, just tell her you forgive her. Take her to church frequently and keep God in her life. When I look back, I wish I had him in mine. Let her know god forgives her and you do to. Not keeping the baby did nothing for me. You have to learn from your mistakes, so if she keeps it, she has mass responsibility! Thanks so much and I hope your daughter can help other moms and teens to learn from her mistake! God bless and good luck!


Guest11655214
Guest11655214
1 month, 19 day(s) ago

no i think u are a good parent i became pregnant at 13 also nad my mom let me keep my bbay am now 21 and still with my babys da


Guest11645576
Guest11645576
1 month, 19 day(s) ago

i think you are a good parent for standing by her, but I think that you should have been more disciplined towards her and this may of not happened. Stand by her, dont tell her how to rule her life, because she can decide for herself but just be there for her.


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Guest11307061
2 months, 11 day(s) ago

i'm 10 but i think your a veary good pearent sorry just got off of summer vacation so spelling not so good.but if i where you i would may be take it easy with her but take her phone if she has one for a week or so or her boyfriend (maybe a little longer)? that's all i got.


Guest11143168
Guest11143168
2 months, 20 day(s) ago

I fully understand what you are going through I just found out that my 13 year old is pregnant and the father is 17 also, they want to keep the baby and get married, but I'm afraid of the laws, because of his age many state refer to it as statutory rape, he a good boy and don't want anyone to get into trouble. But this is a boy that truley loves her. Does this make me a bad parent also, i understand that this happen, do i allow them to marry early, and what happens if the state file charges against him. please help mek


Guest10814791
Guest10814791
3 months, 7 day(s) ago

you're not a bad parent. I'm 14 and 4 months pregnant. My parents started to talk about sex with me when i was just nine years old. they talked about it so early because i'm adopted and my birth mom was a teen mom. i even go to a private school in LA with one of the best sex education programs in the valley. but hey, i wound up pregnant.
your not a bad mom and your daughter isnt a bad person. all i can say is if you trust this baby's father, let him stay and be tough with him. make sure he doesnt cheat and make sure he cares.if you dont trust him, get rid of him now and make it perminant. dont let him show up in a few years and ruin your grand childs life.


Guest10814532
Guest10814532
3 months, 7 day(s) ago

Take it easy on her, i think you are a good parent though. And I know she made a mistake but that doesn't make her a bad kid it just makes her only human. I've made PLENTY of those mistakes back in my teen years, so if you can, then try to just put it in the past. I'm sure she regrets it deeply..


Guest10545312
Guest10545312
3 months, 19 day(s) ago

yes oyu are a good parent , things happen and she made a bad choice but you need to put what she did behind and think about her health and the babys and if that guy has been with her for 2 years, then wow thats crazy but good, if he put 2 years to her than let her have the baby


Guest10541102
Guest10541102
3 months, 19 day(s) ago

no,your not a bad parent at all.it wasnt your fault this happend so don't blame yourself.you should talk to your daughter and tell her that she should use protection next time.i think you're right for letting her keep the baby because its not fare on the baby.just make sure the baby is looked after good.


Guest10076414
Guest10076414
4 months, 15 day(s) ago

Need help please.!!!


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